Funeral Etiquette: Writing Sympathy Letters, Delivering Eulogies, and Acting as a Pallbearer

As an experienced funeral home will advise you, funeral services can be personalized to fit your particular needs. When you want to celebrate the life of your deceased loved one, you deserve to have many options to create beautiful and memorable services. Writing sympathy letters, delivering eulogies, and acting as a pallbearer are major aspects of funeral etiquette for friends and family attending funeral services. Read on to learn more about funeral etiquette for these standard practices.

Writing Letters

Before you attend funeral services, consider writing a simple sympathy letter to the close family members of a departed friend. It is important to mail your letter as soon as possible after learning about a friend’s death. If you do not know the family, but you do know the deceased, the proper rule is to send the card directly to the closest relative of the departed.

Delivering Eulogies

Whether a funeral involves burial at a cemetery or cremation at a crematorium, it will almost always involve a eulogy. A eulogy is a recitation meant to honor the life of a deceased loved one. A family usually asks that a few close friends recite eulogies. While you should be honest and respectfully decline if you feel uncomfortable, you should generally take on the task if you feel you can properly honor a friend.

Being Pallbearers

Funeral services that include a burial, like Jewish funerals, often involve a procession into the religious ceremony. Pallbearers are responsible for carrying the casket of the deceased to the grave. Today, pallbearers are usually other close church members, business associates, and friends. If you are asked to be a pallbearer, send a personalized thank you note.

Contact a funeral home in San Mateo directly by calling Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park at (650) 349-4411. We offer funeral services, burial services, and cremation. We also offer green burials. Whether you want to plan a Jewish funeral or are interested in creating a non-denominational memorial ceremony, we are here for you.