A sympathy gift is a donation to a specific cause or charity group made in honor of a person who has passed away. It is typically made in lieu of sending flowers to the funeral home, and most families specify their preference for sympathy gifts in an obituary. The concern some people have when making sympathy gifts is that the family may not know when the donation has been made. Here is what you need to know about making sympathy gifts that truly provide comfort to the grieving family.
Is it acceptable to mention a sympathy gift?
Many people are worried that telling a grieving family about the sympathy gift that they have made will be perceived as thoughtless and self-serving. In reality, knowing that you made a contribution in honor of their lost loved one can provide the family with comfort. Because many charity groups don’t send out notifications when they receive donations, you should let the family know that you have made a contribution in their loved one’s honor. The key is finding the right time and place.
When and how can I mention my sympathy gift?
The easiest way to alert the family about a gift is to include a note on a sympathy card. You can complete a card and put it in the basket at the funeral home or mail it directly to the immediate family’s house. Writing it in a sympathy card is preferred to mentioning it during funeral services because the family will be overwhelmed and may not remember. The written notification will stand out as the family reads the cards and bring them comfort. Try to make your donation as close to the funeral as possible, and send your written acknowledgment as soon as possible. Avoid mentioning the dollar amount you gave and instead simply mention the group to which you donated.
Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park can alert your funeral guests to your preference for sympathy gifts in your loved one’s honor, along with our full cremation and burial services. Contact our funeral home in San Mateo by calling (650) 349-4411.
At Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park, we recognize that our customers need more than help planning funeral services and understanding their options for green burial, cremation, and cemetery services. They also need our support in dealing with their grief. That is why we’re pleased to offer grief support services to our customers who need them, including online, interactive grief counseling.
Our interactive grief support services are led by our executive counseling director. This grief resource consists of a series of videos to help you understand the process of grieving and the dynamic nature of your feelings. You can use the online tools to find the kind of support you need exactly when you need it, whether your loss was sudden or expected or whether your loss is new or old.
You’re not alone when a loved one passes away. Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park can assist in every aspect of what comes next, including grief support and funeral planning in San Mateo. When you need our services, please call (650) 349-4411.
In addition to choosing a funeral home and planning funeral services, one of the many tasks that will face you after a loved one passes away is notifying other friends and family members. Loved ones not only will need to be alerted to the passing but also will need information about the funeral arrangements. These tips will help you make these notifications.
Consider Face-to-Face Conversations
Depending on the relationship between the deceased and the person receiving the news, a face-to-face conversation may be your best way to make the notification. This makes it easier to deliver the news with the compassion you intend and allows you to comfort each other. Of course, when close family and friends live far away, these conversations may not be possible. In these cases, a phone call to provide the news as soon as possible is a good substitute. You may wish to notify some people of the passing before you have made any funeral plans and then follow up when the time for the service is set.
When you are planning a funeral and making important decisions about things like cremation and burial, the sheer number of people who need to be notified can be overwhelming. Although you should notify close friends and family yourself, ask for help in notifying other people, such as acquaintances and work colleagues. This can alleviate some of your burden and help you avoid having the same conversation multiple times.
Use an Obituary
Obituaries aren’t just tributes to someone who has passed on. They also provide information to people about funeral arrangements. With the information in an obituary, people can find out when the funeral is to be held or what funeral home to contact with questions about the arrangements.
At Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park, we can provide information about the funeral services in San Mateo you have planned for your loved one as well as post information on our website to help people pay their respects. For help with planning a funeral or to find out more about our services, please call (650) 349-4411.
Grief after the death of a loved one never looks the same from person to person, but many people want a roadmap to help them understand what they are facing. Often, people talk about five stages of grief, which people go through long after the funeral services are over, but could there actually be six stages?
Watch this video to hear about Rick Warren’s experience with grief after losing his son. Grief is a confusing and painful process, but the most important part of going through it is to reach out for grief support services when you need them.
At Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park, we’re pleased to offer grief counseling in San Mateo for families coping with the painful loss of a loved one. We are here to answer your questions about all of the services at our funeral home, including cremation, burial, and grief support. Call us at (650) 349-4411 for more information.
There is no “easy” way to cope with the loss of a loved one. Regardless of whether the death was sudden or the result of a prolonged illness, the passing of a loved one brings raw emotions to the surface. However, individuals coping with a sudden death may have a harder time accepting the fact that their loved one is no longer with them. The shock of the news often leads to denial, which may persist even while visiting the funeral home to make the arrangements. During this difficult time, it can be helpful to seek grief support services.
The grief that follows a sudden death is just as poignant as grief after an anticipated loss, but suddenly bereaved individuals tend to be less capable of coping because they haven’t had time to prepare for this new reality. Every mourner will react differently, but it’s not uncommon to see symptoms of shock. Shock may take the form of an inability to speak, move, eat, or sleep. It may involve uncontrollable hysteria, screaming, and shaking. The suddenly bereaved may experience physical effects, such as heart palpitations, headaches, stomach pain, and exhaustion. This is a particularly sensitive period in the grieving process. Medical professionals may need to step in to help.
Working Through Emotions
During the initial weeks and months, the suddenly bereaved will gradually begin coming to terms with the new reality. It’s not uncommon for mourners to feel as though they’re going crazy, can’t think clearly, or simply can’t get through the normal activities of daily life. It’s important for the suddenly bereaved to realize that these challenges are all part of the grieving process. While the pain of loss will never go away, it will get easier to cope with these emotions over time. The suddenly bereaved may try multiple forms of grief support before figuring out what is best for them. For some, support groups are the answer. Others might prefer one-on-one counseling or perhaps volunteering for a cause related to the death of the loved one.
Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park is committed to providing compassionate grief support services in San Mateo. We want you to know that our grief counselors are here for your family. Please explore our online grief services at any time of the day or night, or call us at (650) 349-4411 to arrange funeral services.
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