• Is It Necessary to Wear a Tie to a Funeral?

    One common funeral etiquette question funeral homes encounter time and again is what is appropriate to wear. For men, this question often revolves around whether a tie is necessary for funeral services. The answer is not so straightforward.

    Traditionally, funeral services were formal events to which women wore dresses and men wore suits and ties, always in black. Today, funerals run the gamut as people opt for increasingly personalized services. That means the funeral you are attending may be traditional, in which case a tie is customary, or may have a special dress code requested by the family to uniquely honor the person who has passed. For instance, you may be asked to dress in the colors of the favorite sports team of the deceased. Usually, the funeral home can advise attendees about any special dress code requirements if the family does not share that information.

    At Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park, we encourage all of the families we serve to personalize their funeral services in San Mateo to honor their own traditions and the wishes of their loved ones. To arrange a funeral or find about pre-planning a funeral, call (650) 349-4411.

  • Tips for Selecting People to Speak at a Cremation Memorial Service

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    Choosing cremation does not disallow the option to hold traditional memorial or burial services. Regardless of the final resting place of a loved one’s cremains, a funeral service is a wonderful way to honor his life and provide social support for grieving family and friends. When selecting people to speak at a cremation memorial service, keeping a few tips in mind can make this process easier and ensure that speakers have enough time to prepare the words they’d like to present.

    Family and Friends
    Family is often invited to speak at the funeral service of a loved one. Regardless of the size of your family, limiting the number of speakers to one or two is often best, simply for time purposes. Remind family members that everyone will have the chance to share their memories of the deceased after the formal funeral or during future family gatherings. In most cases, the family members closest to the deceased are chosen to speak, such as a spouse, child, or sibling. If your loved one had a particularly close friend that he considered family, you may also want to ask this individual to say a few words during the cremation memorial service.

    Religious Leaders
    Many memorial and funeral services are led by religious figures, such as priests or rabbis. If your loved one regularly attended religious services, the leaders at his place of worship might wish to say a few words during the service as well, even if you opt to have a different individual conduct the service itself.

    At Skylawn Memorial Park, we are here to help you plan a unique and fitting funeral service for your loved one, regardless of whether he has opted for burial or cremation. Our funeral home and memorial park in San Mateo offers services that include assistance with funeral planning and family grief support. Please visit our website to learn more about our funeral services, or call us today at (650) 349-4411.

  • What to Do When a Loved One Is Struggling with Grief

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    Grief following the death of a close friend or loved one is a very personal experience. Each individual displays and feels grief in different ways, and grief may last only a short while or persist for many months after funeral and burial services have been completed. Knowing how to provide grief support for a loved one struggling with this experience can benefit both you and your loved one during this time.

    Listen Compassionately
    One of the best ways to support a loved one struggling with grief is to provide a compassionate and ready ear. Rather than avoiding the topic of sadness or death, make yourself available and ask if he’d like to talk. Keep in mind that it’s normal for your loved one to repeat the same words, stories, or feelings many times; expecting this can help you remain an attentive listener, rather than becoming short or dismissive.

    Offer Ongoing Support
    Individuals may deal with long-lasting feelings of grief long after a loved one has been lost. It’s important to remember to check in with your loved one regularly, even weeks or months after the funeral or burial service has passed. When possible, make plans for future holidays or anniversaries so your loved one won’t spend this time alone.

    Seek Professional Help
    If you believe your loved one is truly struggling with grief that cannot be overcome alone, it’s best to seek the help of a professional grief counselor. Some of the signs of severe grief or depression include difficulty performing daily functions, severe or prolonged changes in mood, sleeping patterns, or weight, and drug or alcohol abuse.

    At Skylawn Memorial Park, we understand that the loss of a loved one is a difficult process. We offer professional grief support and grief counseling in San Mateo in addition to our personalized funeral, cremation, and burial services. If you’d like to learn more about funeral planning or are seeking grief support after a loss, please reach out to us today at (650) 349-4411 or contact us via our website.

  • What Is Complicated Grief?

    Losing a loved one is always difficult. Grieving lasts long after the funeral services end, but for some people, grief doesn’t get any easier over time. This kind of grief is called complicated grief. Watch this video to learn more.

    Grief typically gets progressively less intense over time, and while most people find that it never really goes away, it gets easier to live with. Complicated grief doesn’t lessen in intensity and becomes an all-consuming force. People dealing with this kind of grief can benefit from grief counseling.

    Skylawn Funeral Home and Memorial Park is here to help with all stages of funeral planning in San Mateo, including grief support. Call us at (650) 349-4411 with your questions about burial, cremation, grief counseling, and the other services at our funeral home.

  • What Do Christian Faiths Say About Cremation?

    Cremation differs from a traditional burial in that the body is reduced to ash and bone fragments using heat. However, these remains can be buried in a cemetery or memorial park, just like a physical body.

    Many Christians have wondered whether cremation will affect their spiritual future. In this video, you will learn that cremation does not differ from traditional burial services in the eyes of God. Thus, the choice of cremation versus more traditional burial services is entirely personal.

    Do you have more questions about cremation or burial services near San Mateo? You can reach an experienced staff member at Skylawn Memorial Park by calling (650) 349-4411 to discuss Christian and Catholic funerals, as well as Jewish funerals, Buddhist funerals, and green burial options. We also encourage you to visit our website for more answers about cremation, embalming, burial, and memorial services.