What Happens at a Jewish Funeral?

Funeral services for a Jewish decedent may take place entirely at the burial plot. Or, they may begin at the synagogue or funeral home before moving on to the memorial park. Under Jewish tradition, certain individuals are designated as the mourners. These include the parent, spouse, sibling, and children of the decedent. Sometimes, these mourners will perform the ritual of tearing the clothing in the presence of the rabbi, or they may wear something torn to the funeral service. If you’re attending a Jewish funeral and you aren’t officially considered a mourner under Jewish custom, it is not appropriate to greet the mourners before the funeral ceremony. Instead, approach them after the service.

Typically, a Jewish funeral service includes the recitation of prayers. The officiant and others may read psalms together and recite the Kaddish. It is not traditional for music to be played at a Jewish funeral; however, the mourners may sometimes choose to play a selection that was significant for the decedent. It is traditional for all mourners and attendees to form lines after the graveside service. In turn, each person may toss a shovelful of dirt into the grave. Whether or not this will occur depends on the family’s preference and on local regulations.

Skylawn Funeral Home & Memorial Park helps families create healing experiences through our personalized funeral services in San Mateo. If you wish to speak with a funeral director at our memorial park, please call (650) 445-0953.

The Benefits of Grief Support Groups

Grief is an unpredictable and highly personal process. Although the funeral services allow you to say your final goodbyes to your loved one, you may feel that you need some support during the months and years ahead. You might consider asking someone at the funeral home about local bereavement support groups. Although support groups aren’t suited to everyone, they can help mourners learn to live with their grief.

Grief Support Groups Can Bring You Out of Isolation

At the funeral home, you’ll be surrounded by caring family members and friends. Yet, you may find that after the funeral services, you have difficulty participating in your usual activities. You may resist going to cheerful occasions such as birthday parties and baby showers, for example. It’s common for bereaved individuals to become socially isolated. If you feel that you cannot bear company, you shouldn’t force yourself. However, you may find it easier to get together with others who are going through similar problems. A grief support group offers you the opportunity to experience an emotional connection with others again.

You Can Experience Unwavering Emotional Support

If you decide to try attending a grief support group, you’ll almost certainly find that you’re in the company of individuals who will offer their unwavering emotional support. Over time, you may feel as though friends and family members tire of discussing your lost loved one. In a grief support group, the other participants will never tell you that it’s time to move on from the loss. They will understand that there is no “normal” pattern or timeframe for grief.

You Can Learn Coping Skills from Others

The facilitator for the grief support group, along with the other participants, can help you learn about coping skills that may help you deal with your feelings. They can also offer recommendations for additional resources on grief and loss.

The grief counselors at Skylawn Funeral Home & Memorial Park invite you to explore our grief support services near San Mateo. You may wish to join our grief support group or you might prefer our online counseling services. For more information, visit our website or call (650) 445-0953.

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