How to Cope with the Painful Experience of Losing a Child

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The loss of a loved one comes as a shock and a deep sadness. Parents who have lost a child often feel lost, guilty, angry, and depressed. It is important to remember that you are not alone during this time. Many grief and counseling services are available to help you through this difficult experience to help you begin healing.

Grieve In Your Own Way

Each individual experiences grief differently. It is important to be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve in your own way, not in the way you believe others want you to grieve. While many parents cry at a child’s funeral, many others do not. Some parents leave their child’s bedroom untouched for some time, while others pack away their things for safekeeping. Do the things that feel right for you and take your time with your grief. Remember that men and women—and husbands and wives—grieve differently, and be patient and kind with your spouse as well.

Reach Out When It’s Right

Although you may feel that you need to grieve alone, this is not the case. Some private grieving is necessary, but it’s also important to reach out to others to talk about your experiences, your pain, and your emotions. You can speak with anyone about these feelings, whether they are a spouse, other family member, friend, chaplain, or counselor. Some parents find support groups are an important part of their healing process. If you reach out and find that a friend or family member’s advice is causing more grief or pain than positive healing, remember that it’s all right to seek help elsewhere for your needs.

Skylawn Memorial Park offers a peaceful, dignified place for you and your family to commemorate the life of a loved one. We offer funeral and burial services to help you memorialize a loved one in your own unique way. Please call us at (650) 349-4411 or click through our website to learn more about our multicultural memorial park in San Mateo.

Grieving the Death of a Child

When a young child dies, parents and loved ones often feel lost and unsure of how to move on after such a big loss. Although every parent copes differently with the death of their child, there are many resources to help you through the grieving process.

In this video, you will hear parents who have lost their children discuss their experiences with grief and how they sought or received help to begin healing. Finding someone with whom you feel comfortable speaking can help you to acknowledge and process your feelings of grief and loss.

Losing a child is a life-changing experience. Skylawn Memorial Park offers 24-hour phone consultations, medical social workers, chaplains, and more to help you through this difficult time. You can  learn more  about our funeral and memorial services to commemorate your loved on by calling  (650) 349-4411 or visiting us on the web. 

Understanding the Difference Between a Wake and a Funeral

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When a loved one dies, family and friends often gather to share feelings, memories, and support. Wakes and funeral services are two types of memorial practices observed in many cultures throughout the world. These services are designed to honor those who have passed and provide one of the first steps on the path to healing for family and friends.

Wakes

A wake is an opportunity to visit and pay respects to a loved one who has passed on. At the wake, friends and family members gather together to share food and drink, memories, support, and to say goodbye. Traditionally, the wake is a memorial gathering held in the home of the deceased or their family before the funeral. Alternatively, a wake may take place in a funeral home. Family and friends who attend a traditional wake will stay up all night with the body—thus, the origin of the term, “wake.” Modern wakes may be traditional or unique, and the body may or may not be present. Some families choose to hold a wake immediately preceding the funeral service.

Funerals

A funeral service is a formal memorial that is typically officiated by a religious figure such as a priest or chaplain. Funerals are also a time for remembrance; friends or family may speak about their loved one during the service. Many cultures have funerary rites that may take place during this ceremony as well. A funeral typically precedes the burial or cremation of the body. The service may take place in a funeral home or church before the body is transported to its final resting place, or a funeral may be held directly at the gravesite.

Planning memorial services for a loved one is an important part of the grieving and remembrance process. At Skylawn Memorial Park, we offer as much or as little assistance as you need to make your loved one’s service special and unique. Please call (650) 349-4411 or click through our website to learn more about our placement and ceremony options in San Mateo. 

Exploring Different East Asian Burial Traditions

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When a loved one has passed, it is often comforting for those left behind to turn to the traditions of their culture. A traditional funeral service includes different features and procedures in different cultures and belief systems. Some families may wish to bury a loved one in the East Asian tradition of Taoism, Buddhism, or Baha’i beliefs. Keep reading to explore the diverse aspects of funeral services in these traditions.
 

Taoist Traditions

Those who follow the Taoist teachings believe in harmonious living. Although specific funeral service traditions can vary depending on the exact culture, quite often, the family places a coffin in the home before the individual passes. Afterward, the decedent is cleansed with talcum powder and dressed in clothing featuring colors such as white, black, blue, or brown. A yellow cloth is placed over the face and a blue cloth is placed over the body, and then the loved one is placed in the coffin. At the funeral service, a priest chants Taoist scripture. The eldest son seals the coffin while the other mourners look away. Traditional yellow and white paper is placed on the coffin. Mourners also avert their eyes as the coffin is being lowered into the ground.

Buddhist Traditions

Buddhists believe that death is a transitional phase and that their loved ones will be reincarnated into another life until they achieve enlightenment. Many Buddhists choose cremation services for their loved ones; however, burial services may also be chosen. After the loved one passes on, family members and friends ceremoniously pour water over one of the deceased’s hands. After the body is placed in the coffin, incense, candles, and wreaths are placed around the area, along with a photograph of the deceased. Monks may chant from the Abhidharma and a ceremonious funeral procession is held before the burial or cremation.

At Skylawn Funeral Home & Memorial Park, our respectful and compassionate staff members will help you bury your loved one in accordance with his or her wishes. We provide burial services, cremation services, and much more in a shared spirit of healing. For more information, please call our office in San Mateo at (650) 349-4411.