Debunking Common Myths about Grief

Because loss of a loved one is a universal experience that each and every person will have to go through in his or her lifetime, there are many cultural misconceptions and myths about the grieving process. While there are some common experiences that most grievers do undergo, grieving is a highly personal and individualized process.

Contrary to common belief, there is no linear progression from denial through acceptance that every single individual will pass through while grieving. Though grief can be unpleasant and difficult, it is also an important part of the healing process, so you do not need to “get over” your grief on any set timeline. The most important thing during the grieving process is to respect yourself and your feelings as well as those of your other loved ones who are also dealing with the loss.

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One of the key components of the grieving process is the funeral service you plan in honor of your departed loved one. At Skylawn Memorial Park in San Mateo, we offer a variety of memorial options for persons of any faith tradition. To learn more, call us today at (650) 349-4411.

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Recognizing the Symptoms of Grief

After the death of a loved one, those closest to the recently deceased person may begin to grieve at different times. Some people start grieving immediately, while others may not show any symptoms until days or even weeks after the funeral and burial services. Below you can read about the different symptoms of grief that you or your loved ones may experience following a loss.

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Emotional Symptoms

The emotion that most people associate with grief is extreme sadness. Though you are almost certain to experience sadness during the grieving process, you may also experience other negative emotions, including guilt, rage, worry, or frustration. All of these reactions are well within the normal range of grief symptoms.

Physical Symptoms

Grief can also manifest in tangible ways. During the mourning period, individuals may experience dramatic weight fluctuations. Some experience loss of appetite due to grief, while others may indulge in overeating of comfort foods in order to cope with their loss. You may also suddenly burst into tears, experience headaches and other pain, and have difficulty sleeping.

Social Symptoms

In the immediate aftermath of a loss, especially if the loss was sudden, some people may express their grief by withdrawing from social contact. You may suddenly or gradually stop seeing or speaking to friends with whom you once maintained intimate contact. You may also find yourself avoiding parties and other festive gatherings, or engaging in irrational and uncharacteristic behavior. Formerly reserved, shy individuals may act out, while extroverts may suddenly close up.

Mental Symptoms

On rare occasions, simple grief can lead to mental health problems if the individual cannot cope with the various feelings the loss has created. Suicidal thoughts and the inability to experience happiness are signs that grief may have progressed into clinical depression.

At Skylawn Memorial Park, our funeral planning services include grief counseling to help the family and closest friends of the recently deceased person cope with their grief in the ways that each of them find most helpful. Call us today at(650) 349-4411 for more information on our various burial and memorialization options.

Tips for Helping Children Cope with Grief and Loss

Losing a loved one can be a difficult process for anyone at any age. There are special challenges for children, however, especially on the first occasion that a cherished relative passes on. The first time that a child copes with loss can have a large impact on his or her development.

If your child is coping with grief, you should create an environment that makes him or her feel safe. It may be a good idea to limit your child’s exposure to violent images on TV or in movies for the first few days. To learn more strategies for helping children cope with grief, watch this video.

For professional, compassionate assistance in funeral service planning, call Skylawn Memorial Park today at (650) 349-4411. We serve our neighbors in the community of San Mateo.