Writing and delivering a funeral eulogy for a loved one in the wake of his or her passing is not easy. Whether you were asked to hold this honor because of your relationship with the deceased or because of your special place in the family of the deceased, the following advice can help you prepare and deliver a eulogy that you feel is worthy of your loved one’s memory.
It Takes Time Writing a eulogy can rarely be done in one short sitting. It helps to have a plan, to brainstorm with others, and to jot down your own memories of the deceased. If you feel stuck during the process, step away from your notepad or computer and do something else for a while. Most people find that they have to prepare a few drafts before they have one that they feel satisfied with.
It’s Okay to Ask for Help Ask friends and family members for help, and not only during the brainstorming phase. Have a friend or family member take a look at your first draft and welcome any suggestions he or she may have for improving the eulogy. You may also want to confirm any biographical information you include with someone in the family to ensure you’re being accurate in your description.
A Theme Can Tie It All Together A eulogy should have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Many people find that a theme provides them with the guidance they need to adhere to this structure. Peruse the notes you jot down when reflecting on the loved one’s life and talking to others in search of a fitting theme.
Delivery is Different than Practice It is important to practice the obituary you have prepared, as it should help make delivery easier. Remember, however, that delivering a praise-filled overview of a loved one’s legacy is difficult. You may feel good about the message you have prepared and confident that you have memorized it, but you should bring a copy of the eulogy to the service. It will come in handy should you have a memory lapse or lose your composure and need to ask a family member or friend to deliver it in your stead.
Depending on the relationship you had with the individual for whom you are preparing a eulogy, writing a eulogy may be one of many preparations you have to make for your loved one’s funeral. If you are in need of burial, cremation, or other funeral services in the San Mateo area, call Skylawn Memorial Park at (650) 288-0559.